Needs some advice

I had a dream 5 or 6 days ago about another boy in my Spanish class and after that i had this huge crush on him. I still like him allot and cant stop thinking about him. i want to ask him out since hes single but hes straight (or at least what his Myspace says) and i'm not sure how he would react to that. anyone able to help me?

and i know i'm Bi so saying that will not help.

honestly? most straight guys are subconsciously homophobic.

You could tell him you're interested in him, but you'd have to be prepared for rejection, and possibly for retaliation in the form of social ostracism.

And then, I'm getting the vibe that you're not part of this guy's social circle. You should probably make friends with someone before you attempt to date them. By the time you know what he's really like, you might have changed your mind.

When we have a crush, we all obsess over the person. Can't get them out of our head. But we also idealise them, and make them perfect. The guy I have a crush on smokes, and I always forget, because that's not part of my ideal. When I do remember, I think of it like a bad boy trait, instead of something that can give you cancer. See what I mean?

I agree.
Once i had a major crush on this guy and he turned out to be a jerk. lol cause i kind of may have written his name somewhere and his friend saw and told and not that long ago i tried to make amends and apologize after i could tell he blocked me on msn and my other friend in my class added him and i said sorry and wanted to try to be friends and he was like B**** ha ha no way do i wanna be your friend and stuff and i realized what a pathetic guy he is and that if i ever have a crush again it'll be on somebody i really know.

Alright well im working at the becoming friends...i don't have to worry about social rejection by people since most of the school is bi lol or at least don't care to greatly on who is bi, gay, straight.

and no his is a athlete but oddly not really in the popular range like most.

My advice is if you become friends with him then you can find out and then make an attempt at him. But Lyra is right about a lot a straight guys being homophobic. but then again most of the ones who are homophobic are insecure in their own sexuality and afraid that they themselves might be gay.

Well, here was my plan of action: I got a good friend of mine, and a somewhat close friend of the crush in question, to tell him/her that somebody has a crush on this person. The person would be left to wonder who is the person with the crush, while you sneak in letters. Hopefully, this generates more curiousity. Then, pick a point where you are alone, and feel comfortable enough to tell this person.

Christabelle Whittle wrote: but then again most of the ones who are homophobic are insecure in their own sexuality and afraid that they themselves might be gay.

I always put it down to them having such huge egos that they assume that everything on two legs will want to make sweet love to them.

That his funny thought swelyn, but it is probably closer to Christy’s thinking. I know myself i was pretty homophobic a couple of years ago, but with me and mine friends we just kinda grew out of it. i think it might be a thing that just go's with age. if the kid is straight and knowingly so such as he has had a girl friend then asking him might be a little weird for him. He would also probably avoid you after that. The guy might be wondering though as some guys do. Well given that you don't know for sure he is single i would guess that you aren’t great friends, so the worst that could happen is him saying no.

wow thanks for the advice. i know he is definitely single now due to what i found on his Myspace he keeps it very up to date. he also sounds a tiny bit depressed which do sent mean anything for me but i sent him a message saying if he needs someone to talk to i'm there. i'm actually kinda confident this might work out in the end for me. but i'm also prepared for if he says no.

Good luck Ne'Os!! Go get him tiger!