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Nothing Wrong with No

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Post by Khaat Lupin on Sat Jul 05, 2014 3:04 pm

with many thanks to Sarah Sellaphix @ Thrive

I want role-players everywhere to know: you can say no.  And it’s okay.

No doesn’t need to be a judgement or personal, or be loaded with anything other than a little no.

If someone sends you a private message inviting you to a thread they want to start or a plot idea they have going, and for whatever reason you don’t want to write in it (or can’t) you can just say “No, thank you.”  Maybe you want to provide some explanation – go for it! But make sure it’s true.  Even when you’re saying no, you should be polite and respectful.

Politeness does not require a friendly role-player to accept all offers or acquiesce to all requests.  After all the person most responsible for you having fun at any given role-playing site is you! If you can’t say no, who else will?

Know the No

It’s easy to say no, and even be polite about it to leave both writers feeling encouraged.

  1. Say thank you! Thank them for asking, for thinking of you. Acknowledge they thought you’d be fun to write with and thank them.
  2. Say no thank you.  Be clear that you’re not interested and won’t be joining them.
  3. Explain why. (Optional!) You are not obligated to reveal why because you are not obligated to write with everyone who asks you.
  4. Initiate another opportunity.  (Optional!) Maybe you’re busy now, but want to write when you have more time – say so! Maybe the plot just doesn’t interest you, so suggest something else for another time and place.  Suggest something for your other characters.  Be as vague or as clear if as you wish.  The point is, this step can help alleviate the sting of no and reassure the other person that it’s not forever no, but just no for now.

Okay, So Someone Just Told You No

It’s okay.  Don’t sweat it.  Move on! I know it’s disappointing.  You were looking forward to it, it sounded really fun, you had such great plans! I know you did! But you are master of the universe and your imagination is a thrilling machine.  You’ll come up with something new and it will also be awesome.

That’s the thing.  No can suck, but it’ll just suck worse if you attempt to dissect it or take it personally.  In the end, we want to role-play with people who want to role-play with us.  And to attempt to convince, pressure or guilt someone into writing with you isn’t going to be a thread you want to be a part of.  Chin up and carry on!

Thanks to Selwyn Thorfinn
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